The $40 Billion Industry Built on Lying to Parents
When supporting your child's passion becomes surviving a system designed to exploit your love
It starts innocently enough.
Your eight-year-old comes home from school bubbling with excitement about soccer tryouts. Or basketball. Or swimming. Or dance. The activity doesn't matter—what matters is the light in their eyes when they talk about it.
So you sign them up. Because that's what good parents do. You support your child's interests. You encourage their passions. You want to give them opportunities you maybe didn't have.
The first season is magical. Carpools with other families. Snacks after games. Kids running around with grass stains and genuine smiles. You make friends with other parents on the sidelines. Everyone's just happy to be there.
But somewhere along the way—maybe it's year two, maybe year three—something shifts.
The coach mentions "travel teams." Other parents start talking about "elite training." Someone mentions college scholarships. Words like "commitment" and "dedication" start getting thrown around. The stakes, somehow, have gotten higher.
And without realizing it, you've crossed a line you didn't even know existed.
Welcome to the parent trap.
The Transformation: From Supporter to Survivor
Ask any parent deep into the youth sports ecosystem when exactly things changed, and they'll struggle to pinpoint the moment. It happens gradually, like boiling a frog. One small compromise leads to another. One additional cost seems reasonable until you look at your credit card statement. One extra tournament doesn't seem like much until you realize you haven't had a free weekend in six months.
Sarah, a mother of two from suburban Chicago, describes it perfectly: "I used to be the parent who rolled my eyes at the crazy sports families. Now I'm checking my daughter's tournament schedule before I plan our family vacation. When did that happen?"
The transformation is so complete, so thoroughly normalized, that questioning it feels almost taboo. Because once you're in, there's an unspoken understanding: this is what loving parents do. This is what commitment looks like. This is the price of giving your child the best opportunities.
But is it?
The Fear Machine: How the System Feeds on Parental Love
Youth sports organizations have become masterful at something most parents don't even realize is happening: they've learned to monetize parental love.
Every marketing message, every coach conversation, every registration email is carefully crafted to trigger the same deep parental fear: what if my child misses out because I didn't do enough?
"Don't let your athlete fall behind."
"College coaches are looking for committed players."
"This is the pathway to the next level."
"The train is leaving the station."
These aren't just sales pitches. They're psychological weapons aimed directly at the part of the parent that would do anything—pay anything—to ensure their child succeeds.
The genius of this approach is that it takes parents' genuine love and twists it into something that looks like neglect if you say no. Want to skip the expensive summer tournament? You don't care about your child's development. Can't afford the elite training program? You're limiting their potential. Choose family vacation over team camp? You're not committed.
Dr. Jennifer Fraser, who studies youth sports psychology, puts it bluntly: "The industry has learned that the easiest way to get parents to ignore their instincts is to convince them that their instincts are selfish. Parents will endure almost anything if they believe it's what their child needs to succeed."
And here's the most insidious part: it works because it contains a grain of truth. Some kids do benefit from high-level training. Some athletes do need exposure to get recruited. Some opportunities are genuinely limited.
But the system takes that grain of truth and uses it to justify a whole ecosystem of exploitation.
The Economics of Anxiety
Let's talk numbers. Because while the emotional manipulation is real, the financial exploitation is what makes it sustainable.
The youth sports industry, according to the Aspen Institute, generates about $40 billion in annual revenue, dwarfing other forms of entertainment. To put that in perspective, that's larger than the entire movie industry and most professional sports leagues combined. And unlike professional sports, which generate revenue through ticket sales, merchandise, and TV deals, youth sports generate revenue through one primary source: parents.
Parents who, according to recent Project Play research, now spend an average of $1,976 per child per sport per year—a 46% increase over just five years. But that's just the baseline. For families involved in "elite" or "travel" programs, costs quickly escalate to $10,000, $15,000, or even $30,000+ annually.
The data reveals the brutal reality of what families are actually paying. Travel has become the single most expensive component, averaging $260 per child per sport—and that's across all participants, not just travel teams. For soccer, the most expensive sport, families average $1,188 annually. Parents in the wealthiest households spend four times more than lowest-income families, and 83% more on travel alone.
Here's what those numbers look like in practice:
Registration and coaching fees: $3,000-12,000
Equipment and uniforms: $500-3,000
Travel and accommodations: $5,000-20,000
Private lessons and camps: $2,000-8,000
Tournament entry fees: $1,000-5,000
Miscellaneous (gas, food, parking): $1,500-4,000
And this is per child, per year. Multiply by multiple children or multiple sports, and families are looking at expenses that rival or exceed college tuition.
But here's the kicker: less than 3% of high school athletes receive any college athletic scholarship money. And of those who do, the average scholarship covers only a fraction of college costs.
Do the math. A family spending $15,000 per year for four years of high school sports ($60,000 total) to chase a scholarship that might cover $4,000 per year for four years of college ($16,000 total) is operating at a $44,000 loss—and that's if the scholarship materializes at all.
Yet parents continue to invest because the system has convinced them that the alternative—not investing—guarantees failure.
The Systematic Exclusion of Families
The industry's business model doesn't just exploit wealthy families—it systematically excludes everyone else. The data is stark: only 24% of children from households earning $25,000 or less play sports regularly, compared to 40% from households earning $100,000+.
This isn't an accident. It's by design.
The average child today spends less than three years playing a sport, quitting by age 11. Half of all families who've been involved in youth sports report struggling to afford the costs. The struggle crosses all demographics: 66% of Latino families, 57% of lower-income adults, 58% of those with high school educations.
But instead of addressing accessibility, the industry doubles down on extraction. When COVID-19 hit and community-based programs closed or merged, families had even fewer affordable options. More than 40% of families saw their local providers either close, merge, or return with limited capacity.
The result? A two-tiered system where athletic opportunity becomes a luxury good, available only to those who can pay premium prices.
The Escalation Trap: How "Just This Once" Becomes a Lifestyle
The youth sports system is built on escalation. Each level requires more commitment, more travel, more expense than the last. And once you're on the escalator, getting off feels impossible.
It starts simple. Recreational league becomes competitive league. Competitive league becomes travel team. Travel team becomes elite club. Elite club becomes year-round training.
At each step, parents are told this is the natural progression. The logical next step. The way things work if you're serious about your child's development.
But what they're not told is that each step is designed to make the previous investment feel worthless unless you continue. It's the sunk cost fallacy weaponized against parental love.
The system has created what researchers call "pay-to-play" models that fundamentally change who gets to participate. Soccer, basketball, and baseball all operate on these models where access depends on family wealth rather than athletic ability or passion for the game.
Meanwhile, children from low-income households are three times less likely to play on traveling teams than those from high-income homes. They're also less likely to report having fun in sports—a devastating indictment of a system that should be fostering joy and development for all children.
The Social Pressure Cooker
One of the most underestimated aspects of the parent trap is the social dynamics it creates. Youth sports communities become echo chambers where spending money on your child's sport becomes a form of virtue signaling, and questioning the system becomes tantamount to admitting you don't care about your child's success.
Parent groups—whether on Facebook, team messaging apps, or in tournament hotel lobbies—become spaces where families compete not just athletically, but economically and socially. Conversations revolve around which camps kids are attending, which private coaches they're working with, which tournaments they're traveling to.
The families who can't keep up don't just fall behind athletically—they become socially isolated. Their children notice. The unspoken hierarchy becomes clear: families who spend more care more.
This creates what psychologists call "social proof"—the idea that if everyone else is doing it, it must be right. When surrounded by families spending thousands on youth sports, spending thousands on youth sports feels normal. Necessary. Expected.
Jennifer, a mother from California, describes the phenomenon: "I remember sitting in a team meeting where they announced the summer tournament schedule. Fifteen tournaments across six states. The cost breakdown was $8,000 per family. And everyone just nodded. No one questioned it. I wanted to ask if this was insane, but I looked around the room and realized I was the only one who seemed shocked."
The Coaching Crisis: Unprepared Leaders in a High-Stakes System
The industry's problems extend beyond cost. Despite charging premium prices, many programs fail to deliver quality coaching. While more coaches report having some training than in previous years, the frequency and quality of that training remains inadequate.
The numbers tell the story: only 39% of coaches received CPR/first aid training in the past year, just 25% were trained in concussion management, and a mere 30% in sports skills and tactics. Most concerning, only 18% of coaches feel confident linking athletes to mental health resources—critical in an environment that increasingly pressures children.
This creates a cruel irony: families pay thousands for "elite" coaching from people who often lack basic qualifications to work with children. The premium pricing suggests expertise, but the reality is often volunteers or poorly paid coaches with minimal training managing high-pressure, high-cost programs.
The Safety Illusion
Parents pay premium prices partly for the promise of safety and professional oversight. But the data reveals this as another industry deception.
Nearly 90% of parents have safety concerns about youth sports, yet the programs they're paying for often lack basic safety protocols. More than 3.5 million children under 14 receive medical treatment for sports injuries annually, with more than half being preventable according to the CDC.
The industry promotes early specialization despite overwhelming evidence that it increases injury rates and psychological stress while decreasing long-term success. Research shows no evidence that intense training and specialization before puberty are necessary for elite achievement, yet programs continue pushing younger and younger children into year-round, single-sport commitments.
Meanwhile, serious knee injuries in high school sports have increased 12% over recent years, with girls soccer showing the highest rates. The industry that promises to develop your child is often systematically breaking them down instead.
When Children Become the Vehicle for Adult Anxiety
Perhaps the most tragic aspect of this $40 billion industry is how it transforms children from individuals with their own interests and capabilities into vehicles for adult anxiety and ambition.
Kids are remarkably sensitive to stress, especially from their parents. When parents become anxious about performance, scholarships, and opportunities, children internalize that anxiety. They learn that their value is tied to their athletic performance. They begin to measure their worth by their parents' investment in their sport.
Dr. Amanda Visek, who studies youth sports motivation, has found that children's enjoyment of sports is directly correlated with their parents' behavior and attitudes. "When parents are stressed about performance and outcomes," she notes, "children stop playing for joy and start playing to manage their parents' emotions."
This manifests in several destructive ways:
Performance anxiety: Children who once played freely become paralyzed by the fear of letting down parents who have invested so much.
Identity fusion: Children begin to see themselves only as athletes, losing sight of other interests and aspects of their personality.
Guilt and pressure: Children feel responsible for justifying their parents' financial and emotional investment, even when they're no longer enjoying the sport.
Fear of disappointment: Children continue participating long after they've lost interest because they can't bear to disappoint parents who have sacrificed so much.
The irony is profound: in trying to give their children the best opportunities, parents often rob them of the very joy that made the sport appealing in the first place.
The Myth of Meritocracy
The youth sports system sells itself as a meritocracy. Work hard, play well, get noticed, earn opportunities. It's an appealing narrative that aligns with deeply held American values about effort and reward.
But the reality is far more complex and far less fair.
Access to elite training, top-level competition, and recruiting exposure is largely determined by family wealth, not just athletic ability. The best coaching, the most competitive teams, the highest-profile tournaments—they all cost money. Significant money.
This creates a system where athletic opportunity becomes a luxury good. Talented athletes from lower-income families are systematically excluded not because they lack ability, but because they lack resources. Meanwhile, wealthy families can buy their children access to opportunities regardless of talent level.
The statistics bear this out. College athletes are significantly more likely to come from households with incomes above $75,000. Not because wealthy children are inherently more athletic, but because they have access to the systems that develop and showcase athletic talent.
Yet the myth persists that youth sports are a level playing field where the best athletes rise to the top. This myth serves the system because it allows organizations to charge premium prices while maintaining the illusion that they're simply providing opportunities for deserving athletes.
The Professionalization of Childhood
Somewhere along the way, youth sports stopped being about children playing games and started being about preparing children for careers they'll almost certainly never have.
The language changed first. Children became "athletes." Games became "competitions." Practice became "training." Fun became "development." Playing became "performing."
With the language came the expectations. Children as young as eight are expected to specialize in single sports, train year-round, and demonstrate "commitment" that would be impressive in professional adults. They're subjected to performance analytics, college recruiting timelines, and competitive pressures that many adults couldn't handle.
The childhood development experts are clear: this is not how children are designed to grow. Children need unstructured play. They need to try multiple activities. They need downtime. They need to fail without consequences. They need to play for joy, not for scholarships they won't receive.
But the youth sports industrial complex has convinced parents that childhood play is a luxury they can't afford. That their children's futures depend on treating elementary and middle school sports with the seriousness of professional athletics.
The result is a generation of children who never experience the pure joy of playing for its own sake. Who learn to see their bodies as performance machines rather than sources of pleasure. Who associate physical activity with pressure, judgment, and adult expectation rather than freedom and fun.
The Ripple Effects on Families
The parent trap doesn't just affect the child athlete—it transforms entire family systems in ways that often aren't recognized until the damage is done.
Marriage strain: The financial pressure and time commitment of elite youth sports puts enormous stress on marriages. Couples fight about money, priorities, and parenting approaches. One study found that divorce rates are significantly higher among families involved in high-level youth sports.
Sibling resentment: When one child's athletic pursuits consume the family's resources and attention, siblings often feel neglected and resentful. Family life revolves around tournament schedules, training sessions, and athletic priorities, leaving little room for other children's interests or needs.
Social isolation: Families become so consumed with their child's sport that they lose touch with friends and extended family members who don't share their priorities. Social circles narrow to other sports families, creating echo chambers that reinforce the obsession.
Loss of family identity: Families stop being families and become support systems for one child's athletic career. Family traditions are abandoned if they conflict with sports schedules. Family vacations become tournament trips. Family conversations revolve around athletic performance.
Financial stress: The hidden costs of elite youth sports can push families into debt or force them to make other sacrifices—delaying retirement, avoiding home repairs, forgoing other children's opportunities.
Lisa, a mother from Florida, reflects on her family's experience: "We spent seven years and probably $80,000 on my son's baseball career. He was talented, and we thought we were doing the right thing. But looking back, I realize my daughter barely had a childhood because everything revolved around her brother's games. My marriage nearly ended from the financial stress. And my son? He stopped loving baseball by the time he was sixteen. We sacrificed our family for a dream that wasn't even his anymore."
The Institutional Enablers
While it's easy to blame parents for getting caught in the trap, it's important to understand that this system didn't emerge by accident. It was designed by institutions that profit from parental anxiety and optimized to extract maximum revenue from families' love for their children.
Youth sports organizations have learned to structure their programs to maximize dependence and minimize alternatives. They create artificial scarcity ("only 20 spots available"), manufacture urgency ("registration closes soon"), and establish social proof ("all the committed families are joining").
Coaches are often caught in the middle. Many genuinely care about their athletes but work within systems that incentivize recruiting and retention over development. They're pressured to paint pictures of college opportunities and elite potential to keep families engaged and paying fees.
Facility owners benefit from the arms race mentality that convinces families they need access to the newest, most expensive training facilities and equipment.
Tournament organizers create massive events that require extensive travel and accommodation, generating revenue not just from entry fees but from partnerships with hotels, restaurants, and other service providers.
Equipment manufacturers convince parents that their children need the latest gear to compete at high levels, creating artificial equipment races that have little to do with actual performance.
College coaches inadvertently feed the system by creating recruiting standards and timelines that push competition down to younger and younger ages.
None of these stakeholders are necessarily malicious. Many are well-intentioned people working within a system that has evolved to prioritize revenue over child welfare. But the cumulative effect is a machine that runs on parental anxiety and child exploitation.
The Mental Health Crisis
The psychological toll of the youth sports industrial complex is becoming impossible to ignore. Rates of anxiety, depression, and burnout among youth athletes have skyrocketed in recent years, and the connection to the increasingly professionalized youth sports environment is clear.
Children are experiencing performance anxiety at ages when they should be learning to love movement and competition. They're dealing with social pressure, academic conflicts, and identity crises that would challenge adults. They're burning out on activities they once loved because the joy has been systematically extracted and replaced with pressure.
The statistics are alarming:
- 70% of children drop out of organized sports by age 13
- Youth anxiety and depression rates have increased by 40% over the past decade
- Sports-related injuries among children have increased by 15% as specialization and year-round training become more common
- Sleep disorders among youth athletes are becoming increasingly common due to schedule pressures and performance anxiety
But perhaps most concerning is the way the system teaches children to ignore their own feelings and needs in service of adult expectations. Children learn to play through pain, to suppress their desire for rest, to prioritize external validation over internal satisfaction.
These lessons extend far beyond sports. Children who learn to ignore their own needs and feelings in service of adult expectations carry these patterns into their academic lives, their relationships, and their eventual careers. The youth sports industrial complex isn't just damaging children's relationship with physical activity—it's damaging their relationship with themselves.
The Scholarship Mythology
At the heart of the parent trap lies a powerful myth: the idea that elite youth sports participation is the pathway to college scholarships and, by extension, a successful future.
This myth is so pervasive, so thoroughly embedded in the marketing of youth sports, that questioning it feels almost heretical. But the numbers tell a very different story than the one parents are sold.
The Reality of College Athletics:
- Only about 480,000 students compete in NCAA sports
- Fewer than 85,000 receive any scholarship money
- The average athletic scholarship covers only 35% of college costs
- Only about 3% of high school athletes receive any college scholarship money
The Reality of College Costs:
- Average college tuition has increased by 1,200% since 1980
- The average student graduates with $37,000 in debt
- A full-ride athletic scholarship is so rare that it makes local news when it happens
The Opportunity Cost:
- Money spent on elite youth sports could be invested in college savings accounts
- Time spent on year-round sports could be spent on academic preparation
- Energy spent on athletic recruiting could be focused on academic scholarships, which are far more common and valuable
But parents aren't presented with these realities. Instead, they're sold stories of success—the rare athletes who did earn scholarships, who did play professionally, who did "make it." These stories are held up as proof that the system works, while the thousands of families who invested heavily and received nothing in return are treated as statistical noise.
The scholarship myth serves a crucial function in the youth sports economy: it allows organizations to charge premium prices by selling dreams rather than realistic outcomes. Parents aren't paying for what their children will likely receive; they're paying for what they might possibly achieve if everything goes perfectly.
The Alternative Reality: What We're Missing
While families are trapped in the youth sports industrial complex, children in other parts of the world—and even in other communities within our own country—are experiencing something very different.
In many European countries, youth sports remain community-based, low-cost, and focused on participation rather than elite development. Children play multiple sports. Seasons are shorter. Travel is minimal. The focus is on skill development and enjoyment rather than college recruiting and professional preparation.
The results speak for themselves. These countries often outperform the United States in international competition despite spending a fraction of what American families invest in youth sports. Their athletes develop later, specialize later, and often have longer, more successful careers because they maintain their love of sport longer.
Even within the United States, there are examples of different approaches. Some communities have maintained recreational leagues that prioritize fun over competition. Some clubs have resisted the travel tournament arms race. Some coaches have found ways to develop talented athletes without requiring year-round commitment and financial sacrifice.
These alternatives prove that the current system isn't inevitable. It's a choice. And it's a choice we can make differently.
The Path Forward: Reclaiming Sanity
Breaking free from the parent trap isn't easy, but it's possible. It requires courage, perspective, and a willingness to prioritize your family's actual well-being over perceived athletic opportunities.
Start with honest assessment:
What are you actually trying to achieve through your child's sports participation? Is it their joy and development, or your own anxiety about their future? Are the costs—financial, emotional, and social—actually serving your family's values and needs?
Challenge the timeline:
The youth sports industrial complex creates artificial urgency around development and recruiting. The reality is that most successful athletes develop much later than the system would have you believe. Giving your child time to be a child isn't limiting their potential—it's protecting it.
Seek out alternatives:
Research community-based programs, recreational leagues, and clubs that prioritize development over revenue. They exist, but they're often overshadowed by the marketing budgets of the elite programs.
Connect with like-minded families:
Find other parents who share your values around youth sports. Create informal groups, organize casual play opportunities, and build community around the joy of movement rather than the pursuit of scholarships.
Set boundaries:
Decide what you're willing to invest—financially, temporally, and emotionally—and stick to those limits. Communicate these boundaries clearly with coaches and organizations. Remember that saying no to elite opportunities isn't saying no to your child's development.
Focus on the present:
Instead of asking whether each decision serves your child's hypothetical future athletic career, ask whether it serves their current well-being. Are they enjoying themselves? Are they learning valuable lessons about effort, teamwork, and resilience? Are they maintaining balance in their lives?
Trust your instincts:
If something feels wrong—if the cost feels too high, if the pressure feels too intense, if your child seems unhappy—trust that feeling. You know your child and your family better than any coach or organization.
The Courage to Opt Out
Perhaps the most radical act a parent can take in today's youth sports environment is to simply opt out. To choose family time over tournament time. To choose financial security over athletic opportunity. To choose their child's current happiness over their hypothetical future success.
This takes tremendous courage because it means resisting not just organizational pressure, but social pressure. It means being willing to be seen as the parent who "doesn't support their child's dreams." It means accepting that your child might miss some opportunities in service of protecting their childhood.
But more families are finding the courage to make this choice. They're discovering that children can be physically active, competitive, and skilled without participating in the youth sports industrial complex. They're learning that there are many paths to college, and very few of them require sacrificing family life and financial security to youth sports.
Most importantly, they're rediscovering what youth sports was supposed to be about in the first place: children playing games because they enjoy them.
A Different Future
Imagine a youth sports environment designed around what children actually need rather than what organizations can sell to parents.
Children play multiple sports until they're old enough to make informed decisions about specialization. Seasons are short enough to allow for other interests and adequate rest. Costs are low enough that participation isn't a luxury good. Travel is minimal, keeping sports connected to local communities. Competition exists but doesn't consume everything else.
Parents support their children's interests without sacrificing their families' well-being. Coaches focus on development and enjoyment rather than recruiting and retention. Organizations measure success by participation and satisfaction rather than revenue and elite athlete production.
This isn't a fantasy. It's how youth sports worked for decades before the current system emerged. And it's how youth sports still work in many places around the world.
The only question is whether we have the collective courage to demand something better for our children and our families.
The Choice Is Yours
The parent trap is real, but it's not inevitable. Every family has the power to choose how much they're willing to sacrifice for youth sports participation. Every parent has the right to prioritize their child's current well-being over their hypothetical future athletic success.
The system will continue to exist as long as parents continue to feed it. It will change only when enough families find the courage to say: this isn't working for us.
Your child's worth isn't measured by their athletic achievements. Your love for them isn't proven by your willingness to sacrifice everything for their sport. Your family's happiness and stability matter more than any scholarship, any ranking, any elite opportunity.
The choice is yours. Choose wisely.
A Movement Is Starting
If this article resonated with you, you're not alone. There's a growing community of coaches, parents, and organizations who are choosing a different path—one that puts kids, community, and families first.
A group of like-minded coaches is starting a podcast to highlight the programs, clubs, and coaches who are breaking away from the expensive, exploitative model described in this article. We want to feature the people who are proving that youth sports can be done differently—with joy, sustainability, and genuine care for young athletes and their communities.
We'll have more details soon, but if you know of coaches, programs, or organizations that are prioritizing children's well-being over profit margins, we want to hear about them. Share their stories in the comments below or reach out directly. These are the voices that need to be amplified.
Change happens when enough people decide the current system isn't working. Let's build something better together.
Resources for Further Reading
If you want to explore the research and data behind this article, here are key sources for deeper investigation:
Research Organizations:
- Project Play Research - Comprehensive data on youth sports participation, costs, and challenges
- Sports & Fitness Industry Association (SFIA) - Annual participation reports and demographic data
- Centers for Disease Control - Sports Injury Prevention - Data on preventable sports injuries
Academic Research:
- Bowers, M. T., et al. (2014). "Assessing the Relationship Between Youth Sport Settings and Creativity in Adulthood." Creativity Research Journal, 26(3): 314-327.(https://news.utexas.edu/2014/10/23/childhood-sports-participation-influences-adult-creativity/) - University of Texas study showing negative relationship between organized sports and creativity, positive relationship with unstructured sports activities
- Barker, J. E., et al. (2014). "Less-structured time in children's daily lives predicts self-directed executive functioning." Frontiers in Psychology, 5:593.(https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2014.00593/full) - University of Colorado research showing that children in less-structured activities develop better self-directed executive functioning
Additional Resources:
- Trust for Public Land - Park Investment Reports (https://www.tpl.org/city-park-facts) - Data on recreation space access and investment
- National Federation of State High School Associations (https://nfhs.org) - High school sports participation and safety data
- Women's Sports Foundation (https://womenssportsfoundation.org) - Research on gender equity in youth sports
These organizations provide the data and research that expose the systemic problems in youth sports while also pointing toward evidence-based solutions that prioritize child welfare over industry profits.
What resonates most with your family's experience? Have you found yourself caught in this system? What would it look like to prioritize your child's joy over their hypothetical athletic future? Share your thoughts and experiences below.

Loren, this is fantastic. It covers most of the reasons I left club coaching. Thank you for this. I've forwarded it on to some of my coaching friends.
Thank you for this!